For many couples, the idea of divorce can be scary. Even though they know that the marriage may be failing, they are unsure of how to go about the process, and even less sure about how to do so and still remain civilized. Most couples hope that their attorneys will be aggressive and try to get as much out of their spouse as possible, but fail to realize that this adversarial process can double, triple or quadruple the cost of a divorce. Often, the two sides are in agreement on many of the issues facing them, like who will get the house or who will answer for the debts, but need some guidance to iron out the issues that they cannot come to an agreement on.
Many times, spending only a few hours with our mediators can help to keep your relationship polite while ensuring that each side’s needs and wants are represented. The cost of mediation is often a fraction of what a contested divorce will cost, and can be a great solution for those couples who do not have a lot of assets to divide.
Another great feature of mediation is that it can create a middle ground from which couples can learn to communicate with each other. This is especially important when there are children involved and couples may have fallen into some bad habits when it comes to how they talk to each other. Never forget that your children are watching and if you can teach them that you can work out your differences civilly, it is a lesson they will keep with them forever.
Mediation can successfully address issues such as the terms of the divorce, custody and visitation, property settlement and child support. In mediation, the neutral third party (mediator) facilitates communication between the parties concerning the matters in dispute and explores possible solutions to promote understanding and settlement. Mediators are skilled at moving two parties towards resolving their issues and manage uncomfortable situations.
Following mediation, the mediator can prepare a document called the Memorandum of Understanding, which contains the agreements made by the parties and is signed by the mediator. The parties can then use this document as a guideline for preparing their divorce papers.
If you are interested in finding out more information about domestic mediation, please contact our firm.
With over a decade of experience battling for the rights of spouses and children, Robert Aronov & Associates, P.C. can help you to navigate this difficult time. Our attorneys can help answer simple questions or take you all the way through trial. Call our office today for a free, no obligation consultation.